Touching the Third Rail

This post by Witchwind posits some frank and painful truths about PIV. For this post, Witchwind (and radical feminists) have been called crazy, manhaters, etc., the regular slurs Women receive from Men and co-opted Women when we say what we think. These people are easily dismissed, including this guy, who thinks he can discern the race of a writer by the way she writes (PS and also, sir, no one gives a shit what you think).

Women have every right to write about PIV and analyze it. All Women. If that makes you uncomfortable, that is a personal problem. Engage with the analysis. Write about it. Write why Witchwind is wrong. If you are a Man, no one cares about your opinion on PIV. We know your opinion already. You’re all for it (HI RAPE CULTURE! HI COMPULSORY HETEROSEXUALITY!)

Further reading on PIV at Femonade and AnnTagonist.

This is a video for Women and doesn’t provide an analysis of PIV, per se, so feel free to skip it if you are looking for an analysis.

PIV is always rape, ok_ _ radical wind.

Priorities, Man

Much has been made about “privacy” over the last four decades. The discussion of “Privacy” is invoked most commonly to protect a Man’s right to sexual debase or exploit Women. In an online environment, with the rapid expansion of data now available from a simple Google search and the willingness of individuals to volunteer their information, calls for “Privacy” (from Men) are becoming even louder, as Men apparently seek the right to discuss all manner of disgusting perversion without having Women notice or comment on it. The topic of “Privacy” is an important concept for feminists to parse, because it does not work for Women.

What, exactly, does “Privacy” mean for Women?

Does it mean Women have the right to control conversations that occur about them?

Clearly, this is not what “Privacy” means.

Does it mean Women have the right to exclude Men from our spaces?

Clearly, this is not what “Privacy” means.

Does it mean that Women have the right to engage in whatever conduct we choose without having to be subjected to conversations about it?

Clearly, this is not what “Privacy” means.

Does “Privacy” mean the right to name that which oppresses us without interference?

Ha! No. Of course not.

So what does “Privacy” mean and, more importantly, who benefits from it? Continue reading

The Unyielding Intrusion of Male Violence

On September 21, 2003, an unidentified Man broke into the home of a 53-year-old Woman in Salisbury, Maryland. The Man, wearing a scarf over his face and a hat pulled over his head, entered her bedroom and ordered her not to look at him.  He reinforced his order with the gun he carried. The Man disguised his appearance so that this Woman could not identify him.  While holding the gun to her head, the Man raped the Woman.

The Man, who so very much did not want to be identified, who so very much wanted to “get away with” raping this Woman, left his sperm inside of her.

I Am A Rapist.

I Am A Rapist.

On September 21, 2003, this Man, who we now know is Alonso King, subjected a Woman to a gross, vile, painful, disgusting intrusion. A strange Man, unknown to the Woman, broke into her home and, against her will and wishes, forcibly, roughly, and repeatedly inserted his penis into her vagina while he held a gun to her head.

This is what rape is. And we can do nothing to make that rape unhappen to this Woman. She will live with what Alonso King did to her for the rest of her life, as do all Women who have been raped by Men. Continue reading

The Shame Is Yours

The Manchurian Rapist

If you believe that Men are biologically destined to be rapists, you believe in “biological determinism.”

As radical feminism is predicated on the idea that all roles played by/forced on Males and Females are socially constructed, radical feminism by definition rejects biological determinism.

Let’s assume, for the sake of this discussion, that Men are not biologically destined to rape Women. As it turns out, I also believe that. There are radical feminists who disagree with me. They are entitled to their opinion, and I support their right to have an opinion. And, in any case, having an opinion one way or the other also does not suggest genocidal solutions to the “Problem.”

Women have a right to talk about the causes of Male Violence and ways to eradicate Male Violence without being harassed by Men’s Rights Activists.

So, that’s out of the way. Now, if Men are not biologically destined or programmed to rape, Men rape for Some Other Reason(s). Continue reading

My Womb Is Not A Football For You

“Mothers don’t kill their children unless they are very ill,” said Diane Sanford, a psychologist who has written two books on postpartum depression.”They believe they are protecting their children from having a life of misery and suffering.”

“Motherhood is near to divinity. It is the highest, holiest service to be assumed by mankind.” ― Howard W. Hunter

“…One of the reasons so many women say “I’m not a feminist but…” (and then put forward a feminist position), is that in addition to being stereotyped as man-hating Amazons, feminists have also been cast as antifamily and antimotherhood.” ― Susan J. Douglas

“So how on earth can I bring a child into the world, knowing that such sorrow lies ahead, that it is such a large part of what it means to be human? I’m not sure. That’s my answer: I’m not sure.” ― Anne LamottOperating Instructions: A Journal of My Son’s First Year

The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness. -Honoré de Balzac

The hand that rocks the cradle
Is the hand that rules the world.

-W. R. Wallace

Many months ago, my friend Phonaesthetica wrote a blog post about Women contemplating Motherhood and Mothers and their Sons. As the Mother of a Son, I enjoyed the post.

As a Mother of a Son, I am sometimes discomfited by discussions about  Male Violence or its inevitability (and I do not believe in the inevitability of Male Violence).  Discussions about Male Violence, however, are important and necessary to Women’s Liberation and we have lots of them here and here. And we need to have them, no matter how much our personal bias makes us feel uncomfortable.

This isn’t a blog post about Mothers and Sons or Male Violence.  Continue reading

Men Will Stick Their Dicks In Anything

NOTE: The following post has graphic descriptions of things Men do. Trigger warningIf you are a Man who doesn’t do these things, thanks. Tell your friends they should stop doing these things. 

When I was in my 20s, I had a particular fondness for Bob’s Big Boy. He was really cute and really pudgy. Also, he was really everywhere, and as a poor student and poor wage earner for most of that time (the 1990s), I could count on the Big Boy to feed me cheaply (and vegetarianly – I was a vegetarian for all that time, so I’ve never actually had an actual Big Boy Burger. I assume they are actually terrible).

Knowing my love of the Big Boy, one of my best friends gave me a Bob’s Big Boy Bank!  To save my Lesbian coins!

A Bank!

Like this one.

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Look how cute he is!

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